Clarify a Compelling Vision:
• What do you most want to experience or achieve? This is your target and clarity will help you focus, whether your resolution has to do with your physical body, relationships & family, career, finances, emotions, or spiritual pathway.
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with some backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: what could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Goals. Show all posts
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Monday, November 1, 2010
Goals & Results
Most people who set goals do not achieve the results they had intended. There are many elements in setting goals, but here are a few reminders to get you back on track:
1. First, get clear about where you are to know where you would rather be. Clarity is power, and it’s also about honesty! Then write your goal down. Using your physiology will help make it more real to you.
2. Be specific about your goal. If you want a new car, pick out the year, make, model, and features. You could even test drive the car so you’re sure about your vision.
3. Emotionally connect with and list the reasons why you want this goal, and what it would cost you not to have it. This is your purpose, your fuel, for this goal, and without a purpose you will likely lose energy when you face obstacles and distractions.
4. Design an action plan. You can always adjust this with the feedback you’ll receive along the way, so start with what you know about whom and what can support your goal.
5. Measure your progress. If you want to exercise four times a week, mark on your calendar which days you actually did exercise. What gets measured gets better results, and the more often you measure, the more often you’ll get better results (all other things being equal). If you want to fire up your progress, find an accountability partner: someone who believes in you and your dreams, and won’t sell your short regarding your commitments to yourself. Examples of a partner could be a friend, family member, coach, or mentor.
6. Make sure your goal is attainable and realistic, so you actually believe it will happen. If you want to be a concert pianist in 30 days, but have never struck an ivory key, your mind will flag your fantasy and set you up for a failure.
7. Put a time stamp on it, and call it your celebration date. Picking a date (or even time on that date) will kick butt over phrases like “someday” or “soon”. If you know your target, you can chunk it down into bit size steps to get there.
8. Review your goals regularly, such as daily or weekly. When you do, get in the space where you feel like you would feel if the goal was already achieved. How would you feel, who would you have become, who else could you benefit, and what else would be possible for you? The feeling presence practice is powerful, and actually aligns you with possibilities, resources, ideas, and people that can help you get there.
9. Keep stretching yourself and celebrate your victories. Meaning in life comes from growing and giving!
I’m here to serve you, and wish you much success and fulfillment!
Coach Mark
1. First, get clear about where you are to know where you would rather be. Clarity is power, and it’s also about honesty! Then write your goal down. Using your physiology will help make it more real to you.
2. Be specific about your goal. If you want a new car, pick out the year, make, model, and features. You could even test drive the car so you’re sure about your vision.
3. Emotionally connect with and list the reasons why you want this goal, and what it would cost you not to have it. This is your purpose, your fuel, for this goal, and without a purpose you will likely lose energy when you face obstacles and distractions.
4. Design an action plan. You can always adjust this with the feedback you’ll receive along the way, so start with what you know about whom and what can support your goal.
5. Measure your progress. If you want to exercise four times a week, mark on your calendar which days you actually did exercise. What gets measured gets better results, and the more often you measure, the more often you’ll get better results (all other things being equal). If you want to fire up your progress, find an accountability partner: someone who believes in you and your dreams, and won’t sell your short regarding your commitments to yourself. Examples of a partner could be a friend, family member, coach, or mentor.
6. Make sure your goal is attainable and realistic, so you actually believe it will happen. If you want to be a concert pianist in 30 days, but have never struck an ivory key, your mind will flag your fantasy and set you up for a failure.
7. Put a time stamp on it, and call it your celebration date. Picking a date (or even time on that date) will kick butt over phrases like “someday” or “soon”. If you know your target, you can chunk it down into bit size steps to get there.
8. Review your goals regularly, such as daily or weekly. When you do, get in the space where you feel like you would feel if the goal was already achieved. How would you feel, who would you have become, who else could you benefit, and what else would be possible for you? The feeling presence practice is powerful, and actually aligns you with possibilities, resources, ideas, and people that can help you get there.
9. Keep stretching yourself and celebrate your victories. Meaning in life comes from growing and giving!
I’m here to serve you, and wish you much success and fulfillment!
Coach Mark
Thursday, January 7, 2010
New Year’s Resolution
Clarify a Compelling Vision:• What do you most want to experience or achieve? This is your target and clarity will help you focus, whether your resolution has to do with your physical body, relationships & family, career, finances, emotions, or spiritual pathway.
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy, and now he's touched hundreds of millions of people with his vision.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum. There is no substitute for action.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do your 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: What could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy, and now he's touched hundreds of millions of people with his vision.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum. There is no substitute for action.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do your 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: What could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
Friday, May 1, 2009
Life's Important Questions
If you found yourself awaking in a car on the side of a road with amnesia, you would likely want to find the answers to several crucial questions:
1. Who are you?
2. Where are you now?
3. What are you here to do?
4. Where do you want to go?
5. What will it take to get there?
As the amnesia disappears perhaps you realize that you are a dedicated family-oriented partner, and you are on a safe road next to Hwy. 70 in the middle of Kansas at noon. You are en-route to Denver for a family celebration which starts at 7 pm. You surmise that it will take another 5 hours and a fresh tank of gas to get you there. With this clarity, you easily find a place to fill up, finish your journey, and arrive to experience a wonderful time. Clarity sure makes life easier, doesn’t it? Whenever you find yourself pressured, dazed, or confused by what life has thrown you, try coaching yourself with the above questions. The answers to these questions will help you find your way again.
Who are you? In order to solve your challenges and to journey well, you may need to be in better touch with the core nature of who you are. Positive changes always start with awareness. So who are you? Not what do you do or have, but what is your essence? What is so meaningful to you that you don’t want to compromise it? What ignites your joy and passion? What values make you feel like you are honoring yourself? By clarifying your values you can re-align with who you are. What do you value: beauty, honesty, or love? The qualities you deem most important act as your steering wheel when you are making decisions that affect the course of your life. Without defining them, you may be easily swayed off course or stalled by distractions or challenges on the road of life.
Where are you now? In order to improve the quality of your life, you will benefit by getting totally honest about where you are now. Most people have a vague sense of where they are. “My money situation is not good,” gives clues, but is still fuzzy. Clarity would be defining the details of your income, expenses, debt, assets, resources, and options available to you. “My love life sucks” is also vague. A more honest assessment might be: “I’ve been seeing a disinterested unemployed ‘friend with benefits’ for 6 months, I feel unfulfilled and out of integrity, and need to learn more about solid relationships.” Knowing where you are, including the environment you are surrounded by, gives you a huge advantage in moving toward where you’d rather be.
What are you here to do? Your purpose for going to the mall may be to shop for dress pants or to see the new movie. Most people know why they are headed to the mall much more than they know why they are going through life. My guess is that maybe one in ten people can clearly state what their life purpose is. “I want to be happy” sounds good on the surface, but isn’t that a result or a pleasurable state of being rather than a reason why one is here? Your purpose is what makes you come alive, fulfills your soul-yearning, and what makes you feel like the Universe is on your side. Purpose is what gives you motivation and the ability to focus your energy to overcome obstacles you will face in reaching for your goals.
What are you here to do? Your purpose goes with you everywhere. Even if you become unconscious of it, you can quickly shift back into alignment with it, once you know what it is and have written it down. Without clearly knowing what your purpose is, you may work endlessly to achieve a goal only to find out that it doesn’t satisfy you or that it was not in alignment with what you are really about. From our road trip example above, if you didn’t know why you were traveling, you could have just as easily stayed in the car (i.e, stuck, going nowhere), headed the wrong way (i.e., had a destination or goal that truly doesn’t serve you), or never have gone to Denver (i.e., not fulfilled your heart desires). Your purpose is vital for you to achieve lasting results and experience a fulfilling quality of life—one that is energized by motivation and soulfulness. There are times when it may be helpful to receive feedback from a friend, partner, counselor, or life coach, so you can re-align with your purpose and inner truth.
Where do you want to go? Knowing that your destination is a green two-story house on 21 Elm St. in Denver makes it a lot easier to get there than if you just knew you were headed to a house somewhere in North America, or a building where fun parties take place. Sure there may be interesting or enticing detours that are offered to us, but pain, suffering, and loss tend to come from ‘places’ that do not resonate with who we are, our purpose for being here, and where our heart really wants us to be. Spontaneity can be wonderful. You can still have spontaneity and not have to be in conflict with your values, purpose, and vision. No matter what happens you stand a much better chance of winding up where you want to go if you know where you’re headed. Without a vision people tend to wander through life aimlessly or remain fenced in by undesirable boundaries. As you clarify your vision, you may find that it is different than where you or others think you should go. Whatever you come up with, know that your heart-desires and vision will lead you towards freedom.
What will it take to get there? The better strategy and route you have put in place, the more likely you will succeed in your destination or vision. Granted, you could hitchhike to Denver, have a fun time along the way, and still make it to the celebration by 7:00. But, you might not get a ride, suffer heat exhaustion, go hungry, and miss the party entirely, which still can give you ‘valuable lessons’—if you truly want those kinds of experiences and lessons. The point is that along your journey you will have needs and face obstacles. If you have a clear idea of what your needs will be ahead of time, you will more gracefully achieve your vision. Journaling can be a good way to help expose how you operate and what may be in your way. Your obstacle could be a person, place, or thing. It may be an attitude, perception, habit, or belief system. Exposing these allows you to design strategies to better navigate them. Your natural excellence will tend to emerge when what’s in the way is modified or removed. Then you can successfully wind up where your heart originally wanted to take you.
There is a way to move through life with a more awakened heart. Asking and listening for the answers to these five important questions can be a beneficial way to journey. Peace and blessings to you.
1. Who are you?
2. Where are you now?
3. What are you here to do?
4. Where do you want to go?
5. What will it take to get there?
As the amnesia disappears perhaps you realize that you are a dedicated family-oriented partner, and you are on a safe road next to Hwy. 70 in the middle of Kansas at noon. You are en-route to Denver for a family celebration which starts at 7 pm. You surmise that it will take another 5 hours and a fresh tank of gas to get you there. With this clarity, you easily find a place to fill up, finish your journey, and arrive to experience a wonderful time. Clarity sure makes life easier, doesn’t it? Whenever you find yourself pressured, dazed, or confused by what life has thrown you, try coaching yourself with the above questions. The answers to these questions will help you find your way again.
Who are you? In order to solve your challenges and to journey well, you may need to be in better touch with the core nature of who you are. Positive changes always start with awareness. So who are you? Not what do you do or have, but what is your essence? What is so meaningful to you that you don’t want to compromise it? What ignites your joy and passion? What values make you feel like you are honoring yourself? By clarifying your values you can re-align with who you are. What do you value: beauty, honesty, or love? The qualities you deem most important act as your steering wheel when you are making decisions that affect the course of your life. Without defining them, you may be easily swayed off course or stalled by distractions or challenges on the road of life.
Where are you now? In order to improve the quality of your life, you will benefit by getting totally honest about where you are now. Most people have a vague sense of where they are. “My money situation is not good,” gives clues, but is still fuzzy. Clarity would be defining the details of your income, expenses, debt, assets, resources, and options available to you. “My love life sucks” is also vague. A more honest assessment might be: “I’ve been seeing a disinterested unemployed ‘friend with benefits’ for 6 months, I feel unfulfilled and out of integrity, and need to learn more about solid relationships.” Knowing where you are, including the environment you are surrounded by, gives you a huge advantage in moving toward where you’d rather be.
What are you here to do? Your purpose for going to the mall may be to shop for dress pants or to see the new movie. Most people know why they are headed to the mall much more than they know why they are going through life. My guess is that maybe one in ten people can clearly state what their life purpose is. “I want to be happy” sounds good on the surface, but isn’t that a result or a pleasurable state of being rather than a reason why one is here? Your purpose is what makes you come alive, fulfills your soul-yearning, and what makes you feel like the Universe is on your side. Purpose is what gives you motivation and the ability to focus your energy to overcome obstacles you will face in reaching for your goals.
What are you here to do? Your purpose goes with you everywhere. Even if you become unconscious of it, you can quickly shift back into alignment with it, once you know what it is and have written it down. Without clearly knowing what your purpose is, you may work endlessly to achieve a goal only to find out that it doesn’t satisfy you or that it was not in alignment with what you are really about. From our road trip example above, if you didn’t know why you were traveling, you could have just as easily stayed in the car (i.e, stuck, going nowhere), headed the wrong way (i.e., had a destination or goal that truly doesn’t serve you), or never have gone to Denver (i.e., not fulfilled your heart desires). Your purpose is vital for you to achieve lasting results and experience a fulfilling quality of life—one that is energized by motivation and soulfulness. There are times when it may be helpful to receive feedback from a friend, partner, counselor, or life coach, so you can re-align with your purpose and inner truth.
Where do you want to go? Knowing that your destination is a green two-story house on 21 Elm St. in Denver makes it a lot easier to get there than if you just knew you were headed to a house somewhere in North America, or a building where fun parties take place. Sure there may be interesting or enticing detours that are offered to us, but pain, suffering, and loss tend to come from ‘places’ that do not resonate with who we are, our purpose for being here, and where our heart really wants us to be. Spontaneity can be wonderful. You can still have spontaneity and not have to be in conflict with your values, purpose, and vision. No matter what happens you stand a much better chance of winding up where you want to go if you know where you’re headed. Without a vision people tend to wander through life aimlessly or remain fenced in by undesirable boundaries. As you clarify your vision, you may find that it is different than where you or others think you should go. Whatever you come up with, know that your heart-desires and vision will lead you towards freedom.
What will it take to get there? The better strategy and route you have put in place, the more likely you will succeed in your destination or vision. Granted, you could hitchhike to Denver, have a fun time along the way, and still make it to the celebration by 7:00. But, you might not get a ride, suffer heat exhaustion, go hungry, and miss the party entirely, which still can give you ‘valuable lessons’—if you truly want those kinds of experiences and lessons. The point is that along your journey you will have needs and face obstacles. If you have a clear idea of what your needs will be ahead of time, you will more gracefully achieve your vision. Journaling can be a good way to help expose how you operate and what may be in your way. Your obstacle could be a person, place, or thing. It may be an attitude, perception, habit, or belief system. Exposing these allows you to design strategies to better navigate them. Your natural excellence will tend to emerge when what’s in the way is modified or removed. Then you can successfully wind up where your heart originally wanted to take you.
There is a way to move through life with a more awakened heart. Asking and listening for the answers to these five important questions can be a beneficial way to journey. Peace and blessings to you.
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