In response to several requests from clients and friends, here are daily questions you can ask yourself or better yet briefly journal about to bring more meaning, progress, and fulfillment to your life:
1. What do I intend for today?
2. What guidance am I grateful for today?
3. How have I contributed and connected today?
4. What experience or achievement today has blessed others or me?
5. What have I learned today?
6. What worked today? What didn’t and what could I do better next time?
7. What did I enjoy most today?
8. Powerful Question: ask something that you want the answer to, something that makes you feel better just by asking it. E.g.: “What is the best way to resolve the way I’m feeling about my boss?”
Remember, what gets measured and recorded gets attention and progress. May these questions be supportive to you and those you love! Feel free to email the positive results you feel.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Saturday, January 1, 2011
5 Tips to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolution
Clarify a Compelling Vision:
• What do you most want to experience or achieve? This is your target and clarity will help you focus, whether your resolution has to do with your physical body, relationships & family, career, finances, emotions, or spiritual pathway.
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with some backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: what could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
• What do you most want to experience or achieve? This is your target and clarity will help you focus, whether your resolution has to do with your physical body, relationships & family, career, finances, emotions, or spiritual pathway.
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with some backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: what could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
Monday, November 1, 2010
Goals & Results
Most people who set goals do not achieve the results they had intended. There are many elements in setting goals, but here are a few reminders to get you back on track:
1. First, get clear about where you are to know where you would rather be. Clarity is power, and it’s also about honesty! Then write your goal down. Using your physiology will help make it more real to you.
2. Be specific about your goal. If you want a new car, pick out the year, make, model, and features. You could even test drive the car so you’re sure about your vision.
3. Emotionally connect with and list the reasons why you want this goal, and what it would cost you not to have it. This is your purpose, your fuel, for this goal, and without a purpose you will likely lose energy when you face obstacles and distractions.
4. Design an action plan. You can always adjust this with the feedback you’ll receive along the way, so start with what you know about whom and what can support your goal.
5. Measure your progress. If you want to exercise four times a week, mark on your calendar which days you actually did exercise. What gets measured gets better results, and the more often you measure, the more often you’ll get better results (all other things being equal). If you want to fire up your progress, find an accountability partner: someone who believes in you and your dreams, and won’t sell your short regarding your commitments to yourself. Examples of a partner could be a friend, family member, coach, or mentor.
6. Make sure your goal is attainable and realistic, so you actually believe it will happen. If you want to be a concert pianist in 30 days, but have never struck an ivory key, your mind will flag your fantasy and set you up for a failure.
7. Put a time stamp on it, and call it your celebration date. Picking a date (or even time on that date) will kick butt over phrases like “someday” or “soon”. If you know your target, you can chunk it down into bit size steps to get there.
8. Review your goals regularly, such as daily or weekly. When you do, get in the space where you feel like you would feel if the goal was already achieved. How would you feel, who would you have become, who else could you benefit, and what else would be possible for you? The feeling presence practice is powerful, and actually aligns you with possibilities, resources, ideas, and people that can help you get there.
9. Keep stretching yourself and celebrate your victories. Meaning in life comes from growing and giving!
I’m here to serve you, and wish you much success and fulfillment!
Coach Mark
1. First, get clear about where you are to know where you would rather be. Clarity is power, and it’s also about honesty! Then write your goal down. Using your physiology will help make it more real to you.
2. Be specific about your goal. If you want a new car, pick out the year, make, model, and features. You could even test drive the car so you’re sure about your vision.
3. Emotionally connect with and list the reasons why you want this goal, and what it would cost you not to have it. This is your purpose, your fuel, for this goal, and without a purpose you will likely lose energy when you face obstacles and distractions.
4. Design an action plan. You can always adjust this with the feedback you’ll receive along the way, so start with what you know about whom and what can support your goal.
5. Measure your progress. If you want to exercise four times a week, mark on your calendar which days you actually did exercise. What gets measured gets better results, and the more often you measure, the more often you’ll get better results (all other things being equal). If you want to fire up your progress, find an accountability partner: someone who believes in you and your dreams, and won’t sell your short regarding your commitments to yourself. Examples of a partner could be a friend, family member, coach, or mentor.
6. Make sure your goal is attainable and realistic, so you actually believe it will happen. If you want to be a concert pianist in 30 days, but have never struck an ivory key, your mind will flag your fantasy and set you up for a failure.
7. Put a time stamp on it, and call it your celebration date. Picking a date (or even time on that date) will kick butt over phrases like “someday” or “soon”. If you know your target, you can chunk it down into bit size steps to get there.
8. Review your goals regularly, such as daily or weekly. When you do, get in the space where you feel like you would feel if the goal was already achieved. How would you feel, who would you have become, who else could you benefit, and what else would be possible for you? The feeling presence practice is powerful, and actually aligns you with possibilities, resources, ideas, and people that can help you get there.
9. Keep stretching yourself and celebrate your victories. Meaning in life comes from growing and giving!
I’m here to serve you, and wish you much success and fulfillment!
Coach Mark
Friday, September 24, 2010
Compassion and Acceptance
Perhaps all of us have had family members or others in our life that have said or done things to us which frankly seem unforgivable! Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of what you said. You were tired, afraid, angry, stressed, or feeling hurt. In that moment you just had to defend yourself, get some space, work through anxiety, or vent some frustration. If someone had understood how you were feeling emotionally, mentally, and/or physically at the time, they could have more easily forgiven you, right? Likewise, if we understood more about the one who offended us, we could more easily forgive them. Picture that person before you right now, and ask them to tell you what the context of their life was like at the time. Listen. What you hear may radically heal you.
When we go to the theater and watch a feature length period piece we may make some judgments about it. The leading actor did a decent job, but the cinematography was lousy, and the movie was a let down. We believe our perceptions are well informed and accurate. We’re always right about how things look to us, aren’t we? We think our truth is The Truth, and that is where the problem lies. If we watched only two minutes of the film instead of the whole feature, we would obviously be less informed. In judging others, we often base our perceptions and reactions on a very short piece of their ‘life movie’—the limited and interpreted part that affected us! So, our judgments may not be as wise as we believe they are. We don’t know every thought and fear they’ve entertained, every decision they made, and how much they were influenced by various people and environments. There is so much we really don’t know about the movie of another’s life. Perhaps that is why the great beings taught that true judgment belongs only to God.
We can come to the place of understanding that, based on the person’s spiritual level of consciousness at the time, how they were feeling, the programming of their DNA and culture, the many choices they had made before that point in time, and what they believed to be true about themselves and the world, it is likely they could not have done it any other way than the way they did, at that moment in time. It is possible that if we had lived their life for them, we may have done it just as they did!
Gautama Buddha taught that the only sin is ignorance. Most people are simply unaware of just how unloving they have been. Understanding this gives us perspective. It is easier to find forgiveness when we connect with what Jesus spoke: “…forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34—LAM). For someone, this may be translated, “The man has no clue.” For someone else, “I see she did not have the awareness and capacity to do it another way.” As we awaken, we perceive a fuller impact of our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Only with heightened awareness can we make higher choices.
If we not only watched an entire movie, but learned about the making of the film, the screenwriter’s background and intent, and the history of the era in which the movie takes place, our perceptions would shift and our understanding of context would expand. We would naturally have more insight and compassion. The same principle applies to understanding another person! Being compassionate with others is the key to opening the door of our heart to forgive.
When we closely examine some of our own repeated poor choices, mistakes, and verbal offenses, we can be just as gentle with ourselves. We did the best we could, until we progressively learned to do it better. Awareness and compassion lead us to acceptance of what was, and what is, without resentment. It is like our heart says, “Of course it happened that way, now I understand.” With this higher wisdom we no longer have to fight the past. We can be at ease with it. Coming to this realization may not be easy; it may be challenging and require much of us in the way of radical humility. It just happens to be easier than continuing to live with the heavy weights of hurt, anger, and resistance—which keep us stuck and deplete our life energy.
Stay open for Divine grace to soften your heart and heal your emotions. A burden can be removed from the other person and you. Forgiveness always has multiple blessings.
When we go to the theater and watch a feature length period piece we may make some judgments about it. The leading actor did a decent job, but the cinematography was lousy, and the movie was a let down. We believe our perceptions are well informed and accurate. We’re always right about how things look to us, aren’t we? We think our truth is The Truth, and that is where the problem lies. If we watched only two minutes of the film instead of the whole feature, we would obviously be less informed. In judging others, we often base our perceptions and reactions on a very short piece of their ‘life movie’—the limited and interpreted part that affected us! So, our judgments may not be as wise as we believe they are. We don’t know every thought and fear they’ve entertained, every decision they made, and how much they were influenced by various people and environments. There is so much we really don’t know about the movie of another’s life. Perhaps that is why the great beings taught that true judgment belongs only to God.
We can come to the place of understanding that, based on the person’s spiritual level of consciousness at the time, how they were feeling, the programming of their DNA and culture, the many choices they had made before that point in time, and what they believed to be true about themselves and the world, it is likely they could not have done it any other way than the way they did, at that moment in time. It is possible that if we had lived their life for them, we may have done it just as they did!
Gautama Buddha taught that the only sin is ignorance. Most people are simply unaware of just how unloving they have been. Understanding this gives us perspective. It is easier to find forgiveness when we connect with what Jesus spoke: “…forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34—LAM). For someone, this may be translated, “The man has no clue.” For someone else, “I see she did not have the awareness and capacity to do it another way.” As we awaken, we perceive a fuller impact of our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Only with heightened awareness can we make higher choices.
If we not only watched an entire movie, but learned about the making of the film, the screenwriter’s background and intent, and the history of the era in which the movie takes place, our perceptions would shift and our understanding of context would expand. We would naturally have more insight and compassion. The same principle applies to understanding another person! Being compassionate with others is the key to opening the door of our heart to forgive.
When we closely examine some of our own repeated poor choices, mistakes, and verbal offenses, we can be just as gentle with ourselves. We did the best we could, until we progressively learned to do it better. Awareness and compassion lead us to acceptance of what was, and what is, without resentment. It is like our heart says, “Of course it happened that way, now I understand.” With this higher wisdom we no longer have to fight the past. We can be at ease with it. Coming to this realization may not be easy; it may be challenging and require much of us in the way of radical humility. It just happens to be easier than continuing to live with the heavy weights of hurt, anger, and resistance—which keep us stuck and deplete our life energy.
Stay open for Divine grace to soften your heart and heal your emotions. A burden can be removed from the other person and you. Forgiveness always has multiple blessings.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
New Year’s Resolution
Clarify a Compelling Vision:• What do you most want to experience or achieve? This is your target and clarity will help you focus, whether your resolution has to do with your physical body, relationships & family, career, finances, emotions, or spiritual pathway.
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy, and now he's touched hundreds of millions of people with his vision.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum. There is no substitute for action.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do your 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: What could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
• Get specific & emotionally connect with your desired result. Bring it into the present by visualizing & feeling it as if it has already happened.
• Who would you be and how would you relate to others when you’ve achieved what you’re going for? Start being this.
• When is your celebration date, and how will you reward yourself?
Feel your Purpose:
• This is your fuel, and what will allow you to overcome obstacles & distractions, keep going and feel passion while making progress. Most people quit because they don’t have powerful enough reasons? When reasons are greater than obstacles, you’ll get it done no matter what.
• Why do you really want this goal?
• What would it do for you and others?
• Is there a higher purpose for it? Walt Disney wanted to build a place for his girls to enjoy, and now he's touched hundreds of millions of people with his vision.
• What would make it a must for you or make you unstoppable?
Write a Winnable Action Plan:
• What steps could you take to hit your target or create experience that’s in your heart?
• What ideas, resources, people and environment are available to support your progress?
• Who could you model that’s already done it?
• What’s helped you succeed in the past, and how could you employ those patterns again?
• What’s the biggest thing standing in your way and what could you do differently this time?
Take Consistent Action:
• After writing your plan immediately, do something towards achieving it to build momentum. There is no substitute for action.
• Taking action in the direction of your dreams expands your capacities, improves your confidence & certainty, opens doors, and makes it easier to take action again.
• Schedule your resolution time and it will more likely happen. This is what will replace your wishbone with backbone.
• Understand your priorities: 20% of your efforts tend to give you 80% of your results. Do your 20%’ers first and watch how fulfilled you become.
Measure your Results & Celebrate:
• What gets measured gets attention; what gets attention gets results. The more often something gets measured the better the results tend to be. The feedback you’re getting will allow you to adjust either of both of two things: your perceptions or strategy.
• Accountability works: with a Coach, spreadsheet, or reliable friend. The real question is: What could you put in place that will support you taking action consistently?
• Celebrate your progress! Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride, and reward yourself for your efforts. By doing so, you’ll have a positive association for them.
© 2010 by LifeCoachMark.com & Mark J. Petroff, LLC
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Love is Empowering
The Lord says, “I will make my people strong with power from me! They will go wherever they wish, and wherever they go, they will be under my personal care.” (Zech. 10:12—TLB)
Powerful Source
Imagine what it would be like to truly know that there is an Almighty power on your side in every situation: As you enter a business meeting, speak to your spouse about something you have been afraid to discuss, travel to a foreign country, learn a difficult computer skill, or stand for what is right in the face of opposition. The ancient Israelites truly did know they had a divine power on their side. That is what gave them the ability to defeat armies, against which they were vastly outnumbered, find abundant supply when there was famine, overcome fear, conceive children beyond child bearing years, break out of bondage, receive healings of every nature, and even overcome the clutches of death. How mighty was their God? He was all-powerful, and ever-present. Is this the same Divine Being from whom we claim power and take action? Accepting that Divinity is timeless and within us, imagine how empowered we would feel and begin to act, if we really stood on having a power-based relationship with our Source. Step by step we can learn to be more empowered, through a growing awareness of how the supreme nature of Divinity expresses itself in and around us.
Weakness Made Empowered
Raised by Egyptian royalty, Moses was connected to a human sense of power. But he felt torn from his true Jewish heritage, and had yet to discover power based on relationship with the Divine. When he witnessed a Jewish slave being abused, Moses murdered the aggressor, and then fled in fear to the land of Midian where he hid out for the next forty years. In addition to being gripped by fear, Moses was also a man who was ‘slow of speech,’ hardly a motivating characteristic for a revolutionary leader-to-be. Still, in Moses’ pathway to becoming spiritually empowered, he experienced hearing God’s voice, witnessed a bush burn without being consumed, a stick change into a moving serpent, and he saw and felt his own leprous condition instantaneously healed.
All these demonstrations taught Moses to feel the nature of infinite Power and Presence, which were always with him. They also prepared him for receiving even greater demonstrations in the future. Through these experiences, Moses grew confident in spiritual authority and Spirit’s ultimate care for him and his people. Eventually he realized that God was directing his every action, and gained the trust that he needed to face down the Pharaoh of Egypt—the pinnacle of human power at the time. How do we act when we need to face the most powerful person in our workplace, family, or social circle? Perhaps we can learn the way to be empowered from Moses.
With a show of force Pharaoh sent his army and hundreds of chariots to destroy Moses and the Israelites as they ran toward the banks of the Red Sea. It appeared that the Israelites were trapped and doomed. Yet, Moses trusted what he already knew and had seen of the power of divine guidance. He told his fear filled people: “Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will shew to you today” (Ex. 14:13). Do we find our spiritual center, our powerful stillness, when the outward circumstances of our life appear fearful—when we feel walled in by some situation? While Moses was facing potential death at the Red Sea, verbal tradition has it that Moses declared out loud: “We are in a helpless place, but the sea, if thou commandest it, will become dry land. Nay, we might escape by a flight through the air, if thou should’st determine that we should have that way of salvation.” (REF.)
Amazingly, Moses didn’t plead for God to help, nor tell Him how to do it. He just confidently stood on the spiritual fact that the powerful nature of Divinity would definitely bring salvation for them, no matter what way it came—and of course God did!How can we more fully embrace what we already know of Divinity’s power and protection for us? How can we begin acting as if we know that infinite Truth and Love are fully on our side, ready to show us what to say and do, ready to provide us strength, resources, opportunities, and a way for us to accomplish what we need to? We are weak on our own, but powerful together with the Supreme Presence within us.
It’s been said that one with spiritual reality is a majority. We all have the innate design to express divine Power in what is honest, kind, just, safe, wise, and bountiful. We have been given spiritual ability to exercise these qualities in every day circumstances of our lives. As we act, we will feel even more empowered. If we fail to act, we will feel weaker.
Empowered vs. Victim
Empowered individuals take responsibility for creating their own experience. We cannot control every detail of what happens to us. But, we can choose how we respond to what happens to us. To think otherwise is to forfeit one’s power, and play the victim of circumstance. The disempowered person believes that their experience is in someone else’s hands. When looking at how their life has turned out, they blame the government, their parents, siblings, boss, teacher, racial prejudice, the weather, and just about everything else—rather than looking within themselves and how they have chosen to respond to their circumstances.
There is no doubt that difficult conditions, faulty governments, less than perfect parents, and racial prejudice do exist. Yet, empowered people use these difficulties to evolve, while the disempowered feel defeated or stuck in hurt or resentment. An amazing example of one who overcame extreme difficulties without resentment is Nelson Mandela and all that he endured during Apartheid, including twenty-seven years of unjust imprisonment, before victoriously becoming the first black president of South Africa. An empowered person realizes that they alone are in charge of how they experience life; they choose their own attitudes, actions, and happiness. In a sense they realize they are largely creating their own heaven or hell by their responses to life.
The disempowered live a life of limited or no possibilities, since they believe that something external is responsible for their experience. Their false perspective makes them feel weak, since they believe they must wait for their circumstances to change before they can. Sometimes their circumstances never do. The disempowered person focuses on the past for the reason why their future will bring more of the same. Empowered people live life with a sense of fresh possibility, and refuse to limit their experience because of what happened in the past. They focus on the present in order to build a brighter future. They realize that when they change for the better, so must their life.
Purpose, Power, and Energy
The empowered man, woman, or child lives with purpose and meaning, and an ever-more clear sense of self-identity. They are resolute about their intentions and values, and they decisively ask for what they want. They have the priority of standing for what they value and believe in, versus just trying to look good and be socially acceptable. Energetically, the empowered are spontaneous, lively, motivated, and vibrantly animated. They do not obstruct the flow of Life energy, and so they move with enthusiasm, passion, and a great sense of internal freedom.
Empowered people have challenges like anyone else, but they know that there is a solution. They trust the unlimited and caring Universe to supply what they need, and they trust their own process of learning. They consider the larger perspective of events in the context of the greater good for all concerned, and they understand that all things ultimately work together for good. They live in abundance, move in divine rhythm, and flow in harmony with divine will. Self-empowerment enables them to synergistically receive blessings, resources, opportunities, and ways to contribute. They willingly share support and encouragement with others.
Disempowered people live in confusion, resentment, criticism, and lack. They stay stuck because of fear, social conditioning, false beliefs, or having been hurt. They give off an energy which is repetitive, flat, disconnected, and full of resistance. Disempowered people have problems instead of challenges, and often try to convince themselves and others just how impossible their problems are, rather than really wanting their life to improve. The disempowered fear the process of change, and ignore the assistance that Spirit is constantly offering. Their life seems filled with scarcity, and focused on short-term limitations instead of on the unlimited potential which lies dormant within them. Which kind of person are you?
Perhaps in moments, or in certain areas of our lives, we have all felt disempowered or like a victim. So, we can be compassionate with ourselves and others going through such a state. With awareness of how we are currently being and acting, we can always choose again to embody Divine power, and live a life of purpose, freedom, and full self-expression. The Self as love is the power within us—the grace which motivates humility, compassion, giving, deeper levels of self honesty, and unlimited feelings of strength, resources, and possibilities. With love and honesty as our intention, we are provided the opportunity and ability to feel and experience Divine Love’s power.
Make the Shift
If we are feeling weak-kneed or disempowered, how can we change? The first step is to align our heart with the infinite Presence that is right where we are filling all space. We can rest in the awareness that Divinity is radiating within us and animating our potential. Understand that we are powerful because the Allness of Divinity is powerful. Its infinite field of energy includes us, regardless of what we have or haven’t done. Leverage can make a difference too. It can be helpful to realize how feeling disempowered has been costing us in terms of health, mental ease, quality of relationships, and productivity. Once we are aware of the price we have been paying, desire can motivate us to regain our power and to take positive action. It takes courage to operate in a new way— to seek the change from within, instead of waiting for circumstances to change outside of us.
Humility is also a key, since it leads us to take responsibility for our own experience. This creates an opening for us to feel divine Power filling us. We can perceive that there is no separation between the nature of God-power and how Divinity is expressing itself—the Self as us. It is easier to take action from this heightened state of awareness. It is important for us to be kind, gentle and patient with ourselves during the times we need to make a shift. When we do make the shift, we will have more wisdom, strength, and momentum to do it again whenever we need to.
Intention & Devotion
Forward steps to a more empowered experience come from intention and devotion, just like they do in every other area of life. When we declare a pure desire, and are committed to having it, Divinity will provide us the way to fulfill that desire, as we are promised: “Whatsover ye ask in my name, I will do it for you…” (John 14:13—LAM) By clearly stating what it is that you will unselfishly be, do, or have, and then taking each step that Spirit reveals to you, power awakens within you. You may declare that you will get a job promotion, learn how to meditate, or find your ideal partner or home. Understand your source of power, set your honest intention, take consistent action toward it, and feel yourself receiving what you need along the way.
There are times we can empower ourselves by asking for help: “I will find someone to help me, to heal me, to show me how to be unafraid.” In my twenties I had a strong desire to find a spiritual teacher so that I could learn more deeply about humility. I was living in St. Louis at the time, and the same week I set an intention to find such a teacher, I suddenly felt impelled to book a trip to Boston. While in Boston I was standing in a cafeteria line when I met my spiritual teacher. This mentor faithfully taught me for the next twelve years, and I am still learning from what I was taught. What pure desire do you have? Are you committed to having it, no matter what? Then let Spirit provide the way for you.
Vocal Power
Divinity gives us both a voice and the wisdom when to use it. It is up to us to use it for what is honest, just, and good. Joseph Joubert wrote that “Justice is truth in action.” There is a time to speak up and to be heard. With wisdom we will know when that time is. When will we stop putting up with things we have been tolerating? Is there vocal action you should be taking now? In what way do you need to speak up and demonstrate more responsibility for your experience and those you care about? Your voice will strengthen as you use it with honesty and love. If you don’t speak your truth, you will remain disempowered, or even feel weaker.
Earlier in my life I worked in a warehouse. During my first day on the job I noticed many pornographic pictures that workers had posted on the wall above the shipping station. At first I was cautious; then I felt impelled to take action. I began taking the images down, one each day. After several days, a three hundred and fifty pound co-worker challenged me about the missing ‘Donna, Michelle, and Victoria’ posters. I spoke up about what I felt happens to many women in the porn industry, including the abuse and drug addiction they go through. I also shared my feelings about how women should be appreciated and respected, not thought of and used as sex objects. A fight nearly broke out, and several weeks of tension followed.
The word spread throughout the company about what had happened and eventually got back to management. When they questioned me about it I didn’t back down. The workers had a right to view pornography, on their own time and place, and I had a right not to. Within a very short time a ‘Non-sexual Harassment Policy’ was defined and put into place by the company, including the edict that no pornographic images were to be displayed anywhere on company premises. Following my stand for true womanhood a female Chief Financial Officer was soon hired. She was the first female to ever be hired in upper management in that company’s history. As I look back on these events, the real point was not whether I was right or wrong in my stance (because no doubt I had positionalities about it), but that I followed my own sense of integrity in the best way I knew how at the time.
Empowering Steps
There exists a higher consciousness—the true Self—within each of us, which is constantly impelling us to live an empowered life, by giving us guidance and making us aware of resources and capabilities available to us. Through awareness of and response to this field, our inner experience with the power of Divinity strengthens us, just like it did with Moses. We shift towards power any time we feel, think, speak, and act with honesty, clarity, truth, excellence, and love. What steps can you take, and what are you willing to let go of, in order to become the empowered person you were born to be? Just who could you be? Divine power is always available to us to be identified with, yielded to, and embodied.
Practicing Love is Empowering
1) Be Divinely Empowered: Meditate on qualities which are empowering. For example: self-honesty, courage, unselfishness, or willingness. As you meditate, focus on what it would feel like for you to fully embody these qualities in daily life. Just as Divinity initiated Moses, it is constantly guiding us to live an empowered life. From the things you have been shown intuitively, what action steps can you take today? The next step will unfold as you take the first one. Strength is revealed in action impelled by Spirit. Power that is experienced stays with us as a resource.
2) Develop Awareness: Identify two areas of your life where you are thinking, speaking, feeling, or acting disempowered. Write down the thoughts, feelings, or belief systems which may be blocking you from feeling empowered (i.e., fear, resentment, confusion, or a limiting belief that “Nobody will listen to me” or “I have never acted that way before”). Just by exposing what has been weakening us, we may use this honest awareness to make decisive changes.
3) Fuel Desire: Now write down and declare three ways in which you want to live as an empowered being of the Divine. For example, “I will speak my truth,” “I will live my values,” “I will set clear boundaries with my parents,” or “I will find work that nurtures me.”
4) Take Action: Are there circumstances and behaviors you should no longer be tolerating? Pick one area in your life in which you want to be more empowered, and go for it! Maybe it is to having the courage to stop tolerating things that don’t work for you, the discipline to stop procrastinating, or the humility to ask for forgiveness so that you can let go of guilt. When we take responsibility for our own experience, we can live from a place of empowerment to create the life that we really want. Step by step, it will become our naturally expanding way of being.
Experience is not what happens, but what we do with what happens. (Aldous Huxley)
To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive. (Robert Louis Stevenson)
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. (Seneca)
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. (Phil. 4:13)
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manor of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe)
Powerful Source
Imagine what it would be like to truly know that there is an Almighty power on your side in every situation: As you enter a business meeting, speak to your spouse about something you have been afraid to discuss, travel to a foreign country, learn a difficult computer skill, or stand for what is right in the face of opposition. The ancient Israelites truly did know they had a divine power on their side. That is what gave them the ability to defeat armies, against which they were vastly outnumbered, find abundant supply when there was famine, overcome fear, conceive children beyond child bearing years, break out of bondage, receive healings of every nature, and even overcome the clutches of death. How mighty was their God? He was all-powerful, and ever-present. Is this the same Divine Being from whom we claim power and take action? Accepting that Divinity is timeless and within us, imagine how empowered we would feel and begin to act, if we really stood on having a power-based relationship with our Source. Step by step we can learn to be more empowered, through a growing awareness of how the supreme nature of Divinity expresses itself in and around us.
Weakness Made Empowered
Raised by Egyptian royalty, Moses was connected to a human sense of power. But he felt torn from his true Jewish heritage, and had yet to discover power based on relationship with the Divine. When he witnessed a Jewish slave being abused, Moses murdered the aggressor, and then fled in fear to the land of Midian where he hid out for the next forty years. In addition to being gripped by fear, Moses was also a man who was ‘slow of speech,’ hardly a motivating characteristic for a revolutionary leader-to-be. Still, in Moses’ pathway to becoming spiritually empowered, he experienced hearing God’s voice, witnessed a bush burn without being consumed, a stick change into a moving serpent, and he saw and felt his own leprous condition instantaneously healed.
All these demonstrations taught Moses to feel the nature of infinite Power and Presence, which were always with him. They also prepared him for receiving even greater demonstrations in the future. Through these experiences, Moses grew confident in spiritual authority and Spirit’s ultimate care for him and his people. Eventually he realized that God was directing his every action, and gained the trust that he needed to face down the Pharaoh of Egypt—the pinnacle of human power at the time. How do we act when we need to face the most powerful person in our workplace, family, or social circle? Perhaps we can learn the way to be empowered from Moses.
With a show of force Pharaoh sent his army and hundreds of chariots to destroy Moses and the Israelites as they ran toward the banks of the Red Sea. It appeared that the Israelites were trapped and doomed. Yet, Moses trusted what he already knew and had seen of the power of divine guidance. He told his fear filled people: “Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will shew to you today” (Ex. 14:13). Do we find our spiritual center, our powerful stillness, when the outward circumstances of our life appear fearful—when we feel walled in by some situation? While Moses was facing potential death at the Red Sea, verbal tradition has it that Moses declared out loud: “We are in a helpless place, but the sea, if thou commandest it, will become dry land. Nay, we might escape by a flight through the air, if thou should’st determine that we should have that way of salvation.” (REF.)
Amazingly, Moses didn’t plead for God to help, nor tell Him how to do it. He just confidently stood on the spiritual fact that the powerful nature of Divinity would definitely bring salvation for them, no matter what way it came—and of course God did!How can we more fully embrace what we already know of Divinity’s power and protection for us? How can we begin acting as if we know that infinite Truth and Love are fully on our side, ready to show us what to say and do, ready to provide us strength, resources, opportunities, and a way for us to accomplish what we need to? We are weak on our own, but powerful together with the Supreme Presence within us.
It’s been said that one with spiritual reality is a majority. We all have the innate design to express divine Power in what is honest, kind, just, safe, wise, and bountiful. We have been given spiritual ability to exercise these qualities in every day circumstances of our lives. As we act, we will feel even more empowered. If we fail to act, we will feel weaker.
Empowered vs. Victim
Empowered individuals take responsibility for creating their own experience. We cannot control every detail of what happens to us. But, we can choose how we respond to what happens to us. To think otherwise is to forfeit one’s power, and play the victim of circumstance. The disempowered person believes that their experience is in someone else’s hands. When looking at how their life has turned out, they blame the government, their parents, siblings, boss, teacher, racial prejudice, the weather, and just about everything else—rather than looking within themselves and how they have chosen to respond to their circumstances.
There is no doubt that difficult conditions, faulty governments, less than perfect parents, and racial prejudice do exist. Yet, empowered people use these difficulties to evolve, while the disempowered feel defeated or stuck in hurt or resentment. An amazing example of one who overcame extreme difficulties without resentment is Nelson Mandela and all that he endured during Apartheid, including twenty-seven years of unjust imprisonment, before victoriously becoming the first black president of South Africa. An empowered person realizes that they alone are in charge of how they experience life; they choose their own attitudes, actions, and happiness. In a sense they realize they are largely creating their own heaven or hell by their responses to life.
The disempowered live a life of limited or no possibilities, since they believe that something external is responsible for their experience. Their false perspective makes them feel weak, since they believe they must wait for their circumstances to change before they can. Sometimes their circumstances never do. The disempowered person focuses on the past for the reason why their future will bring more of the same. Empowered people live life with a sense of fresh possibility, and refuse to limit their experience because of what happened in the past. They focus on the present in order to build a brighter future. They realize that when they change for the better, so must their life.
Purpose, Power, and Energy
The empowered man, woman, or child lives with purpose and meaning, and an ever-more clear sense of self-identity. They are resolute about their intentions and values, and they decisively ask for what they want. They have the priority of standing for what they value and believe in, versus just trying to look good and be socially acceptable. Energetically, the empowered are spontaneous, lively, motivated, and vibrantly animated. They do not obstruct the flow of Life energy, and so they move with enthusiasm, passion, and a great sense of internal freedom.
Empowered people have challenges like anyone else, but they know that there is a solution. They trust the unlimited and caring Universe to supply what they need, and they trust their own process of learning. They consider the larger perspective of events in the context of the greater good for all concerned, and they understand that all things ultimately work together for good. They live in abundance, move in divine rhythm, and flow in harmony with divine will. Self-empowerment enables them to synergistically receive blessings, resources, opportunities, and ways to contribute. They willingly share support and encouragement with others.
Disempowered people live in confusion, resentment, criticism, and lack. They stay stuck because of fear, social conditioning, false beliefs, or having been hurt. They give off an energy which is repetitive, flat, disconnected, and full of resistance. Disempowered people have problems instead of challenges, and often try to convince themselves and others just how impossible their problems are, rather than really wanting their life to improve. The disempowered fear the process of change, and ignore the assistance that Spirit is constantly offering. Their life seems filled with scarcity, and focused on short-term limitations instead of on the unlimited potential which lies dormant within them. Which kind of person are you?
Perhaps in moments, or in certain areas of our lives, we have all felt disempowered or like a victim. So, we can be compassionate with ourselves and others going through such a state. With awareness of how we are currently being and acting, we can always choose again to embody Divine power, and live a life of purpose, freedom, and full self-expression. The Self as love is the power within us—the grace which motivates humility, compassion, giving, deeper levels of self honesty, and unlimited feelings of strength, resources, and possibilities. With love and honesty as our intention, we are provided the opportunity and ability to feel and experience Divine Love’s power.
Make the Shift
If we are feeling weak-kneed or disempowered, how can we change? The first step is to align our heart with the infinite Presence that is right where we are filling all space. We can rest in the awareness that Divinity is radiating within us and animating our potential. Understand that we are powerful because the Allness of Divinity is powerful. Its infinite field of energy includes us, regardless of what we have or haven’t done. Leverage can make a difference too. It can be helpful to realize how feeling disempowered has been costing us in terms of health, mental ease, quality of relationships, and productivity. Once we are aware of the price we have been paying, desire can motivate us to regain our power and to take positive action. It takes courage to operate in a new way— to seek the change from within, instead of waiting for circumstances to change outside of us.
Humility is also a key, since it leads us to take responsibility for our own experience. This creates an opening for us to feel divine Power filling us. We can perceive that there is no separation between the nature of God-power and how Divinity is expressing itself—the Self as us. It is easier to take action from this heightened state of awareness. It is important for us to be kind, gentle and patient with ourselves during the times we need to make a shift. When we do make the shift, we will have more wisdom, strength, and momentum to do it again whenever we need to.
Intention & Devotion
Forward steps to a more empowered experience come from intention and devotion, just like they do in every other area of life. When we declare a pure desire, and are committed to having it, Divinity will provide us the way to fulfill that desire, as we are promised: “Whatsover ye ask in my name, I will do it for you…” (John 14:13—LAM) By clearly stating what it is that you will unselfishly be, do, or have, and then taking each step that Spirit reveals to you, power awakens within you. You may declare that you will get a job promotion, learn how to meditate, or find your ideal partner or home. Understand your source of power, set your honest intention, take consistent action toward it, and feel yourself receiving what you need along the way.
There are times we can empower ourselves by asking for help: “I will find someone to help me, to heal me, to show me how to be unafraid.” In my twenties I had a strong desire to find a spiritual teacher so that I could learn more deeply about humility. I was living in St. Louis at the time, and the same week I set an intention to find such a teacher, I suddenly felt impelled to book a trip to Boston. While in Boston I was standing in a cafeteria line when I met my spiritual teacher. This mentor faithfully taught me for the next twelve years, and I am still learning from what I was taught. What pure desire do you have? Are you committed to having it, no matter what? Then let Spirit provide the way for you.
Vocal Power
Divinity gives us both a voice and the wisdom when to use it. It is up to us to use it for what is honest, just, and good. Joseph Joubert wrote that “Justice is truth in action.” There is a time to speak up and to be heard. With wisdom we will know when that time is. When will we stop putting up with things we have been tolerating? Is there vocal action you should be taking now? In what way do you need to speak up and demonstrate more responsibility for your experience and those you care about? Your voice will strengthen as you use it with honesty and love. If you don’t speak your truth, you will remain disempowered, or even feel weaker.
Earlier in my life I worked in a warehouse. During my first day on the job I noticed many pornographic pictures that workers had posted on the wall above the shipping station. At first I was cautious; then I felt impelled to take action. I began taking the images down, one each day. After several days, a three hundred and fifty pound co-worker challenged me about the missing ‘Donna, Michelle, and Victoria’ posters. I spoke up about what I felt happens to many women in the porn industry, including the abuse and drug addiction they go through. I also shared my feelings about how women should be appreciated and respected, not thought of and used as sex objects. A fight nearly broke out, and several weeks of tension followed.
The word spread throughout the company about what had happened and eventually got back to management. When they questioned me about it I didn’t back down. The workers had a right to view pornography, on their own time and place, and I had a right not to. Within a very short time a ‘Non-sexual Harassment Policy’ was defined and put into place by the company, including the edict that no pornographic images were to be displayed anywhere on company premises. Following my stand for true womanhood a female Chief Financial Officer was soon hired. She was the first female to ever be hired in upper management in that company’s history. As I look back on these events, the real point was not whether I was right or wrong in my stance (because no doubt I had positionalities about it), but that I followed my own sense of integrity in the best way I knew how at the time.
Empowering Steps
There exists a higher consciousness—the true Self—within each of us, which is constantly impelling us to live an empowered life, by giving us guidance and making us aware of resources and capabilities available to us. Through awareness of and response to this field, our inner experience with the power of Divinity strengthens us, just like it did with Moses. We shift towards power any time we feel, think, speak, and act with honesty, clarity, truth, excellence, and love. What steps can you take, and what are you willing to let go of, in order to become the empowered person you were born to be? Just who could you be? Divine power is always available to us to be identified with, yielded to, and embodied.
Practicing Love is Empowering
1) Be Divinely Empowered: Meditate on qualities which are empowering. For example: self-honesty, courage, unselfishness, or willingness. As you meditate, focus on what it would feel like for you to fully embody these qualities in daily life. Just as Divinity initiated Moses, it is constantly guiding us to live an empowered life. From the things you have been shown intuitively, what action steps can you take today? The next step will unfold as you take the first one. Strength is revealed in action impelled by Spirit. Power that is experienced stays with us as a resource.
2) Develop Awareness: Identify two areas of your life where you are thinking, speaking, feeling, or acting disempowered. Write down the thoughts, feelings, or belief systems which may be blocking you from feeling empowered (i.e., fear, resentment, confusion, or a limiting belief that “Nobody will listen to me” or “I have never acted that way before”). Just by exposing what has been weakening us, we may use this honest awareness to make decisive changes.
3) Fuel Desire: Now write down and declare three ways in which you want to live as an empowered being of the Divine. For example, “I will speak my truth,” “I will live my values,” “I will set clear boundaries with my parents,” or “I will find work that nurtures me.”
4) Take Action: Are there circumstances and behaviors you should no longer be tolerating? Pick one area in your life in which you want to be more empowered, and go for it! Maybe it is to having the courage to stop tolerating things that don’t work for you, the discipline to stop procrastinating, or the humility to ask for forgiveness so that you can let go of guilt. When we take responsibility for our own experience, we can live from a place of empowerment to create the life that we really want. Step by step, it will become our naturally expanding way of being.
Experience is not what happens, but what we do with what happens. (Aldous Huxley)
To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive. (Robert Louis Stevenson)
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. (Seneca)
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. (Phil. 4:13)
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manor of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. (Johann Wolfgang von Goethe)
Monday, May 25, 2009
Relationship Seminar
Being Love™ Seminars
Our next event is:
Saturday June 20, 2009 @ 9 am-6pm
Location: Hampton Inn, Altamonte Springs, FL
Participation Fee: $99 All credit cards accepted. Limited seating, so register today!
The majority of people in relationship feel unfulfilled. Plus, there are a growing number of singles who may be wonderful but can't seem to find a great partner. Wonder what it takes to have a fulfilling relationship: To find one, or make the one you’re in not just better, but amazing? Come and experience an all day life-changing relationship event with certified Life Coaches Charlene McLachlan & Mark Petroff. Designed for singles and couples.
Learn how to:
• Deepen your heart presence: as a gift to you and your partner
• Create your ultimate relationship vision
• Meet your and your partner's needs at a level 10
• Enhance polarity and passion between the masculine & feminine
• Master the vital relationship skills
• Experience fun and transforming processes!
Registration: Call Being Love Seminars today @ (407) 429-4390 or
Email your request for seats today to BeingLove@earthlink.net, or
Visit www.LifeCoachMark.com/workshops.html
Our next event is:
Saturday June 20, 2009 @ 9 am-6pm
Location: Hampton Inn, Altamonte Springs, FL
Participation Fee: $99 All credit cards accepted. Limited seating, so register today!
The majority of people in relationship feel unfulfilled. Plus, there are a growing number of singles who may be wonderful but can't seem to find a great partner. Wonder what it takes to have a fulfilling relationship: To find one, or make the one you’re in not just better, but amazing? Come and experience an all day life-changing relationship event with certified Life Coaches Charlene McLachlan & Mark Petroff. Designed for singles and couples.
Learn how to:
• Deepen your heart presence: as a gift to you and your partner
• Create your ultimate relationship vision
• Meet your and your partner's needs at a level 10
• Enhance polarity and passion between the masculine & feminine
• Master the vital relationship skills
• Experience fun and transforming processes!
Registration: Call Being Love Seminars today @ (407) 429-4390 or
Email your request for seats today to BeingLove@earthlink.net, or
Visit www.LifeCoachMark.com/workshops.html
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